Wedding Guest Complaints Diverted

It's your big day and you want celebrate in a big and fabulous way that has your guests gossiping for months to come, but you don't want them to gossip about all the good gone wrong. It's a day to impress and to make sure that happens, please avoid these top wedding guest complaints...

Bad Date: I'm sure Christmas holds sentiment for a lot of couples, but you can't expect your guests to toss out their own traditions to spend the day celebrating you. Other holidays to avoid New Year's, Mother's Day, Father's Day, and Thanksgiving.

Bad Timing: Make sure your wedding flows well. If you're planning on photographs between ceremony and reception, make sure there's entertainment for your crowd. Fill the time gap with a cocktail hour, hors d'oeuvres, or musical guest.

Boredom: To hold even the shortest attention spans, keep your ceremony short and sweet as guests will be ready to launch the after party. Keep speeches to a minimum and spend a short time, sans mic, individually thanking your guests for being there. My favorite receiving line includes cake.

Seating Arrangements: Some people should never be allowed to sit together, like exes or trouble makers. On the same token, don't sit anyone next to the speakers that can't tolerate loud music all night. Just pay close attention to who you are seating with whom and where and you should be just fine.

Bad Food: My biggest fear. Just make sure it tastes good and there's plenty of it. Ranking right next to bad food is no food.

A Cash Bar: Let's face it, no one wants to pay for their drinks, especially at your wedding. However, in the economy now, it can be hard to come by a couple thousand dollars to sufficiently liquor up your crowd. My remedy is to have an open bar for X amount of hours only {estimate with two drinks per person/per hour}, after time's up it becomes a cash bar. If guests want to wake up with a hangover, you aren't going to stop them, you're just not going to foot the bill.

No Direction: "Where is the.... ?" If your venue is spread out, it's easy for guests to get lost. Use sign posts to clarify where the good stuff can be found like the dance floor, booze, and bathroom.

Invitation Confusion: It's likely that single guests will question whether or not they can bring a guest. Please address envelopes to Ms. Smith & Guest. The same goes for children; Mr & Mrs. Smith and Family. It's also likely that if your wedding is going to encompass a meal time, that some will wonder if they can expect dinner. On your invite, please make some identifiable note, ie: "champagne reception and dancing to follow" or "dinner to be served at 7pm followed by dancing".

Putting Guests to Work: There will be some things that only a guest can do like greet others, take gifts, etc, but you should want your guests to enjoy your day with you. Why else did you spend all that money but to have a good time with the people you love most? Hire a day-of coordinator to tend to the details of your day that makes it all run smoothly without enlisting the help of guests.

No Thanks: Some will tell you it's okay to skip the favors, but I think each guest should take a little something as a thank you. A hug and a five minute conversation at your reception just isn't enough if they flew a million miles to party with you. I like to suggest that newlyweds host "morning-after brunches" for out of town guests.

You cannot please all of the people all of the time. Plan in advance the needs of your guests and allow yourself to enjoy your day. Shrug off the little things that didn't go according to plan and show off how happy you are!


Reminder: BHLDN is now OPEN!

As a frequent Anthropologie flier, I'm happy to announce that their wedding line {with sister company, Urban Outfitters} was officially opened for business yesterday. Which should make my newly engaged cousin, Karen, over-the-moon happy {congrats, girl!}. Check out dresses, accessories, shoes, and more at now, Now, NOW!


TGIF, At Last!

After the week I just endured, I am beyond thankful today is Friday.

It seems to me that mothers, like the forces of nature they are, should be immune to illness. I've been in bed all week, which isn't as glamorous as it sounds. Thankfully I happen to love {and be loved by} a very important person who went from understudy to starring role in the hit musical, 'Single Parent of a Three Ring Circus' with very little stage instruction. No one died of starvation, no one missed school, and no one burned the house down. Yay! Of course, men will never be mom's and I have about four days of make-up house things to tend to and I'm out of clean pajama pants {quite a feat in my case}, so it's about time to wrap this shiz up. Big things lie ahead...

Tomorrow kicks off Valentine's Weekend. Yay! I think my favorite part of the my least favorite holiday is the mascot. A fat baby with a weapon representin' L to the O-V-E. Bravo! to whoever came up with that ghetto fab idea. We celebrate VD as a family {of course that was intentional}. We get pizza, eat a box of gamble chocolates, watch my favorite Valentine's Day movie, Happily N'Ever After and no one complains {I particularly like that last part}. I don't know when this tradition started, but I absolutely lurve it. In my opinion, little tokens of appreciation should be given when they're least expected and love should be celebrated every day it's received.

However, if you want an over-the-top huge Cupid production of a Valentine's Day, but haven't made any plans yet, you're an idiot ~ VD is 2 days away, cowboy, get on it! Check out this big list of Valentine's Day events for what's hot around the Valley.

May you get the good in every gamble this weekend. Be sweet!

*Side Note: Have you ever eaten a chocolate out of those heart shaped boxes with any confidence? You know going in that the contents hidden inside are going to be really good or really, really nasty and that's why, my friends, we fondly refer to them as "gamble chocolate".


An Anthropologie Wedding

Anthropologie, in a mashup with their sister company, Urban Outfitters, is set to unveil their very own bridal collection on ~ wait for it ~ Valentine's Day! Check out their new website and browse dresses ranging in price from $1000 to $4000. Just be careful, the website could suck a good four hours out of your day. A sneak preview...

I LOVE those gold shoes! What do you think of the new bridal line? I'm a huge fan of Anthropologie to begin with, so for me, this is like a dream come true!


TGIF, Folks!

The longest week in history is finally {almost} over. THANK GOD. If I haven't mentioned it yet, February is my most favorite month. There's always so much glittery goodness packed into 28 days and I can't wait to see what this month has in store for me. In the meantime, here's a glimpse of what it has in store for Green Apple Design...

600 envelopes. No, I am not sending out wedding invites on behalf of Prince William and Kate. I would though! Instead, I'll be hand addressing and stuffing more envelopes than one person should as a promotional 'pick-it-up' that will be received by beautiful brides-to-be all over the lovely {and currently chilly} state of Arizona. I am hoping this will generate a lot of loves of labor ~ doing something I love for people who are in love. Does it get much better? Probably not. My friends had better watch out though, I'll be calling in Team Missi for an "enveloparty" when my order arrives via FedEx this Monday {fingers crossed!}.

I have a month packed full of meetings with vendors and brides and grooms ~ oh my! From wedding professionals to those taking the plunge, thank you so much for giving me the amazing opportunity to work with YOU! Let's make this year ROCK.

Also on the calendar, professional head shots with Krista Campbell Photography! I'm so excited. Not only does it give me a great excuse to go shopping for myself, but also a reason to scour my secret antique store for an apple bushel basket. Wahoo!

So that's February for GrApple'D, as for me, I'm looking forward to eating a box of gamble chocolates with my kids on Valentine's Day, celebrating two special birthdays, an anniversary, and my heritage at the Annual Matsuri downtown. I may not look Japanese, but I assure you that my Ninja skills are inherited and impressive.

What's on your calendar? Happiest Friday, be sweet!